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My Mother Almost Destroyed Me... Freedomain Call In

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My Girlfriend Loves Underdogs!

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What sparked the idea behind your recent poll and proposal video to reconsider paid private calls?

What are your thoughts on the result of the poll and subsequent comments?

Stef I am currently seeing a woman, I would not say she is my girlfriend I just have chatted with her a few times and she gave me her phone number. Anyway I saw her Instagram page by random accident, maybe not completely random as the algorithm probably recognised that my phone number is on her contacts list. Anyway, I saw her Instagram page and I decided to take a look, it has several pro Aboriginal posts. This woman does not know the truth about indigenous Australian history and if she did would she still put these posts praising Aborginal culture on her Instagram? My question is Stef how do I break the news that Indigenous Australian ‘history’ as presented in Australian schools, universities and the Australian media is a lie. I want to show her your presentation on Indigenous Australia History. As Schopenhauer wrote ‘making women angry is not a good idea if you want to reproduce’. Dating today is hard and younger generations are having less sex than ever but on the other hand a commitment to truth telling is one of the most important virtues. How do I go about telling her this truth or should I just accept the fact that she is female and she can continue living on with this delusion as most females don’t have to deal with objective reality to survive. I too was constantly presented with the false history of indigenous Australian History and Culture during school and college but I accepted the reality of the true history when I saw your presentation. As she is female I don’t see any likely outcome other than her becoming hostile to the truth and resultantly seeing me as an enemy. Stef as you have stated women don’t like to hear the truth and women are particularly susceptible to government propaganda, which leaves me in a tough situation because if this is really how women in general think then how can I balance the line between exposing her to the truth about her leftist delusions whilst also doing it in a way where she doesn’t get mad and leave me? Unfortunately Stef this leftist type of ‘virtue’ signalling is on virtually every woman’s social media so I don’t think I have the luxury of just leaving and miraculously finding the super rare women who isn’t into this woke nonsense. To clarify this woman is not Aboriginal, she claims to be from some Aboriginal tribe but she is as pale as a British woman, it’s possible she may identify as an Aboriginal in the same way Elizabeth Warren identifies as Native American. She may believe being aboriginal gives her special status or she may have 1-2% indigenous blood and identify as indigenous despite the vast majority off her blood being European. White looking Australians identifying as Aboriginal is quite common over here. This may complicate things further if I decide to break the news to her & show her your presentation about ‘The Truth about Indigenous History’. To give you more information this woman was actually a good conversationalist on the few times I chatted with her and did not treat me in the vapid narcisstic manner many women display towards men these days. So I think there is enough good qualities present in this woman that all is needed is the right approach to educate her about the truth of Aboriginal Australian Culture & History. Stef have you ever educated a woman to make the truth more accessible to her in a less confrontational manner and how do you recommend I go about doing it? Would it be deceptive of me to ignore these differences until a later date in a relationship. To clarify she is 26 so not super late stages in the egg count, but yeah I shouldn’t be wasting more than 1 year of this woman’s life before bringing this up. What do you think would be the best way to tell a woman that her woke programming is all a big lie and that she should stop identifying as Aboriginal as she is almost certainly at least 95% British. Why would she ignore at least 95% of her ancestry to identify with this culture, why would she do it, why do so many women seek some sort of special status by claiming to be Aboriginal or Native American when they are not or it is only a tiny fragment of their ancestry at most?

You've constantly asked for feedback on your books, and I think I have something valuable to mention regarding your fictional work. I've noticed this right from the start but it took me years to get my head around it and come up with something that hopefully makes sense.

Your dumb, low-IQ, or shallow characters do not feel genuine. The example that I have in mind is the guy in the Just Poor novel who gets his head smacked by his partner when trying to sell the stuff they produced at their "co-op" farm. His actions and overall behavior are in line with how a real-life dumb person might behave, but his inner dialogue and the way he expresses his ideas often seem way more complex than they should be.

I was born and live in a country in Eastern Europe with an average IQ of 86 and I've met a large number of low-IQ people throughout my lifetime. They have significant difficulties in articulating their ideas and they have a limited vocabulary so the way they speak is inferior to how the Just Poor guy I mentioned speaks and thinks.

This next example hopefully clarifies my case even further. I got a similar sense with Arlo in The Present. He acted and behaved just like a shallow, self-absorbed individual but his inner dialogue and some of his speeches showed a lot of depth and meaning.

I initially thought that it might be difficult for a brilliant, high-IQ, and profound writer to create characters that are somehow the opposite of himself. On the other hand, you do seem very able to create evil characters.
Another explanation is that it is easy for you to create smart, passionate, productive, funny, engaging, gross, evil, and violent people in your stories because you've had close contact with such traits throughout your lifetime, but you've had very limited contact with dumb or shallow people. What do you think? Am I misinterpreting your characters or are there any challenges when writing the type of people I mentioned?

HI Stef. Have you ever made a list of must read books? like maybe your top 10, or even 100? Thank you.

hi Stef! I am about 5 months into a serious relationship with a woman who I'd one day like to marry. I often have, or at least try to have, very in-depth conversations with her about our past, about emotions, etc, but I notice she gets sort of vague and foggy and I feel she isnt truly opening up with me.

When I press her on this, I get responses such as she is afraid of being vulnerable, afraid of rejection, afraid of change, stuff like this. I feel like when I try to dig deeper, I inevitably hit a wall. And while I do my best to be totally open and honest with her, I struggle with getting her to be as open and honest with me.

What can a man do in a situation like this in order to convince a girl to open up about herself more? Is it a matter of patience, or should I keep pressing it?

Some background that could help: She was raised in what appears to be a nice family with 6 siblings. She's kind and considerate with others. But she seems to have an aversion to being up-front and moving forward in life, and she's always been somewhat socially recluse; she doesnt have many friends, and isnt very close to anyone outside of her family.

I would greatly appreciate your help on this. Thank you, Stef!

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CAN YOU REALLY HELP SIBLINGS?

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My brother is 27. He has been working as a forklift operator in a warehouse. Despite family support and encouragement he hasn't done much with his life since he finished highschool. He is dating a 32yo woman for a year now. She is single, very attractive, no kids and works in upper management in a corporation and compares to him she is financially successful.

This relationship seems unsustainable and I am worried about her true intentions, because of their status incompatibility. I would appreciate your thoughts on that.

Recently you said that one of your listeners has a clownish relationship with themselves because they used the expression 'barf my thoughts out'. I have a similar issue of not taking myself seriously, not approaching life with all the respect that it requires. I don't do it all the time, but have a tendency to downplay the importance of my thoughts, in public and to myself, to laugh at things that aren't funny (and to laugh precisely because these things are very serious). Do you have any advice on how to break out of this pattern?

Why is going to the strip club worse than watching pornography? They seem to be equally morally abhorrent, except one is sort of out in the open and one is usually kept hidden.

Do you have any advice on helping motivate my almost 6 year old to do her schoolwork? We homeschool and she struggles to pay attention to her memory work (she is supposed to memorize two verses a week) and to do her arithmetic practice (it's 100 addition and subtraction problems everyday). Everything else she gets done without issue. Maybe this is just how it is, but if you have any advice for me, it would be much appreciated! Thank you

What do you think of Daniel Mackler's claim that one ought not have children until they are perfectly healed. Is such a thing even remotely possible?

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Hey Stefan, possible case of family annihilator in UK. Emma Pattison (she was headteacher of Epsom college) and her daughter were shot dead by the husband who then killed himself. Why are some men family annihilators? What drives them to do this?

Hey Stefan,
how can I identify my own manipulations with my child or to say it in another way how do I know if I am inadvertently manipulating my toddler?
Also what are your thoughts on couple counseling?
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why don't people blame the parents of early adult suicide victims for being terrible parents?
I can think of some surface reasons like "don't want to get busted for being a bad parent" but is there something deeper?

Would you be interested in polling your listeners according to sex, age, continent of origin, relationship status etc.
Someone mentioned in a thread here on Locals that the majority of your listeners are young, single men. Is that really so?

How can I better negotiate with my 4 year old son who is reflexively disagreeable. My wife and I are committed to peaceful parenting, but his lack of cooperation are disruptive to daily activities, family outings, etc. He gets plenty of one on one parent and group family time to explore relationships and dynamics. Thanks!

Could you explain the causes of the Industrial Revolution? I’ve heard you make the case that morality drove innovation, specifically the ending of slavery in 1833, which allowed for new cotton-based agricultural labour saving devices in the late 19th and early 20th century.
How would you explain the creation of other labour-saving devices prior to 1833? What were the moral conditions that allowed textile based machinery, the steam engine and machine tools to be created whilst slavery was still widely practiced in the Industrial Revolution?
If you could timeline starting from the Roman Empire until 1833 the increasing moral standards and the subsequent technological advancements? Is it really cause and effect? Or can an argument be made that morality and innovation are independent from each other? And can you reiterate why the process isn’t reversed (labour saving devices lead to increased moral standards).
Thank you Stef!

Why might a father and/or mother continue to feign amnesia of their abusive behavior rather than apologize to their children, knowing their children no longer accept these lies? My oldest brother has drifted away, 2nd has DFOO'd while leaving an open door should they choose to apologize, and I am currently apartment hunting in preparation of DFOO'ing. What do they have to gain that is worth losing all their sons and grandchildren?

Modern Western women have an almost superhuman ability to sense which men are and are not having regular sex, and then they typically are only receptive to the advances of the more promiscuous and thus confident men. Many men report “dry spells” due to this feedback loop, and it even affects well-meaning men seeking a partner for a long term relationship. How can an otherwise attractive man break out of this vicious cycle?

Would you agree that if young people share their privacy so eagerly in social media, they will also not mind giving up their privacy to the state and therefore increase its power?

You have suggested that in a stateless society, ostracism would play a role in preventing or punishing crimes. The collectivist Left has been using this tactic for years, and it's a method that is tearing down society. Obviously the collectivist Left is completely irrational, and the people ostracizing like they do suffer from public schooling and other mind destroying institutions, but does this make you concerned about the role of ostracism in a stateless society? (While writing this message, it occurred to me that maybe this is also proof of it's effectiveness, when applied in a RATIONAL society 🤔)

Myself and many others in the manosphere have noticed that when it comes to dating preferences, American women tend to be far more ruthlessly obsessed with a man’s status and dominance than are European women. For example, the loudest and most obnoxious guy in a US bar, typically a super alpha frat-bro type, mesmerizes women, but in Europe he would be more likely to be dismissed as a buffoon. Why do you think this is?

Why is it that communists are usually (and probably most effectively) opposed by authoritarian right-wingers instead of libertarians or Ancaps? Is this due to tribalistic human nature, the inability of individualists to act in a coordinated manner, or other factors?

Could a DRO enforce imprisonment, the death penalty, or even cruel and unusual punishments if members agreed to contracts including these measures?

How does the NAP apply to vengeance and preemptive strikes? Both today and in a voluntary society.